Feeling a little woozy on your big day? Don’t worry! It happens to the best of us; just be prepared to fight a battle you can win! Cold Feet- pre-wedding jitters -- bridal nerves. Call it what you what you will, most brides and grooms are nervous before a wedding. A sense of nervousness about a wedding is normal – after all it's a new phase of life that you're taking. I having mixed feelings of nervous and yet still excited, it's probably just the normal jitters that every bride will bump into. Most of the brides are bewildered by these big feelings. I fall into the same loop. I believe that my engagement is to be one of the happiest times of my life and my family circle too. Yes, happiness is a big factor of being engaged -- you've found your life partner, and you're getting married! These feelings are pretty normal and indispensable as you make transition from single women to fiancée. Now comes the reality which hits us in flash of a moment.
Emotions manifest differently for every bride. Some fight with their fiancé, friends, and parents. Others withdraw themselves, confused and depressed. Many obsess about details so much that they are panicky and irritable. All of these reactions are normal during a major life transition such as getting engaged/married. But it's a lot for one person to handle! I can assure that my emotions are still under control but it did happen to me. I was on the brink of getting annoyed easily. The first victim would be either mom or dad. Yet, they are very mature and understanding towards me by bringing me back on focus without taking it hard on me. Perhaps, I started feeling afraid of separating from my family? Because a feeling, once it is deeply felt, passes through and subsides. And then the bride is left to experience more feelings - especially the joy and magic of this amazing time of life.
"I was drained out, perturbed but overwhelmed at the same time. I felt huge pressure to complete the checklist, guest list; calling to give gentle reminder to all the vendors and final discussions with them. With all these happening, in the back of my mind, I felt a real sense of missing my single life with a hasty adieu. A hen’s night (bachelorette night sounds better I feel) was planned a couple of months ago but we had to shelve the idea when all the girls got caught up with work (its peak period). In anyway, we will have our girl’s night out soon just before my wedding. I felt as though I’m in the middle of nowhere now.
Yet as the date drew closer, I started to feel jittery. Yes… partly it has got to do with my project deliverables for the upcoming 6th SAC meeting on December 14th. Literally speaking, my team had to burn the midnight oil to meet our boss expectations to deliver few things in short span. Despite the various shortcomings we faced for the past couple of months, I have performed up to my ability and what will be, will be. On the other hand, November this year is exceptional to me; more important than ever as in this month, I finally get committed to the man I have been dating for the past 4 years. I will be engaged!
No. I am not having any doubts with regards to my feelings for him. Rather, the jitters are on two counts. Firstly, for the ensuing function where all our close friends and family will be present. Every girl wants such important days in her life to be perfect and I am not an exception. It is definitely one of the most important days in my life and I want it to be more than perfect. The planning has been going on for months, venue booked, guest lists finalized, outfits and bridal accessories selected, and wedding band designed to fit our taste. However, the odds of things inevitably could go wrong makes you uneasy. How am I going to be on that day? Will the bridal lady’s touch make me flawless? What if…? Being a vibrant and indomitable girl, all these apprehension are just self imposed and it’s pretty normal to feel that way at this moment. Everyone says it’s pretty normal. My friends are there to console me and bring me on track with some little tips and advices! Thanks girls you’re the best ones I have close to me..
What I am disturbed about, are the thoughts that were occupying my already whacked out mind which is keeping me up all night (Simply a reason for my afternoon slump). How to go about the sacrament performed on that day? I have no idea what is it all about and what do I have to do? What’s even worse is that my beau keep quizzing me, “Are you prepared for the d-day?” (Omg, it is overwhelming my concentration) “Practice your grand march (Indian brides has a knack to be bashful with graceful persona on that day) and to smile away (I can’t sweep off anyone else off their feet with my infectious smile. Not anymore!)”. Do you think I can pull it off gracefully? This is haunting me ever since the engagement ceremony fever set in early of the week – which it’s about time that I do some homework myself over the net on the tradition of Indian engagement. With all these keep ringing in my head, I could only feel butterflies in my tummy at all times.
It is already Friday! And I have just a day to sort things out and I just can’t help feeling stressed, since time is speeding. “Can we like have more than 24 hrs per day?” Is that possible? Nah! I don’t think so. Just get on with it, Nisha!
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