Facebook a boon or a curse?

Facebook is a great gizmo to keep up with family and friends, share information, ask for advice, keep others posted about what is happening in your life and learn what is happening in other people’s lives when we don’t call everyday. Usually, Facebook makes reconnecting easier with family and friends that live far away. While Facebook can have heap of affirmative facets, there are also hitch that it comes with. More often than not, Facebook leads to numerous alarming social dilemmas.

I had always thought Facebook to be harmless social milieu where you get to keep in touch with your family and friends. "It's just Facebook; do you think can it really cause many problems in a relationship? This may come as no surprise to regular users of Facebook.
Facebook users have grown over the years and if we are not careful, it can spin off a wide gamut of problems starting from privacy invasion to ignite the fire of jealousy. At the end of the day, Facebook itself isn't to blame for the downfall of relationships. Instead, it's an avenue by which we should see Facebook for what it is; a great way to be in contact with family and friends.

Now, Facebook jealousy is a new trend that leads to netizen feeling insecure with their public lives when they try to match up to their own life with their family and friends as displayed on the social milieu. I learned about this early on when I was awaken by this uncanny truth. Living in this information eon, we are now in vulnerable circumstances whereby the information practically comes to you. All you have to do is log into site. The shout out on the wall, the tagged pictures, and the post that shares your personal lives might potentially elicit feelings of envy. I feel Facebook has made our lives stood still and leaving us in danger of too much publicity.

Today when I sat down to pen down this note, it raised a question in me which left me baffled. This is not the first time I am stirred up from my senses about the Facebook envy that sparked amongst my circle of acquaintances (funny right? Looks like I have a life that is so fascinating, zesty and full of life that can transform my Facebook ‘connections’ to be green-eyed monster).

In short, Facebook has become yet another avenue for you to weigh up yourself against others. It has become so easy with just a click away to pry into the lives of others that makes you want to keep up with theirs. The more time people spent on the social networking site, they more jealous they get by seeing snippets of other people’s personal lives on Facebook. So it could be the starting point for propagating jealousy.

The golden rule of Facebooking is that in life, you shouldn't be doing anything that you wouldn’t want to strip your privacy away and make your life a slave to virtual platform. Facebook isn't usually the problem. It's the behaviors that are the problem. Before we shoot blatant accusation on Facebook vulnerability and horrible curses to Mark Zuckerberg on the dawn of privacy invasion, just wait. The envy gene could be residing in your genetic blueprint. So it’s you and not Facebook entirely the root cause of all problems.
A mere public display of your personal life as in the cars that you drive, the vacations you go, the dream career that you have, the love of family, friends, spouse that you’re blessed with, the beautiful life that you’re savoring and even the fame and social echelon that you’re living in is simply enough to spark jealousy. This will turn the virtual networking into battles of ego. Sometimes the jealousy inflicted people may cross their boundary by posting imprudent messages, misinterpreting a wall post of another, judge their character through their shout out etc etc. In a nutshell, we never really know what is going on with other people and we can’t judge exactly what their relationship is like. Poking our noses over a picture and commenting on their integrity is nothing but inviting for trouble.
Facebook is meant to reinforce relationship, share information, and keep in touch with all our acquaintances in at every corners of the world. So let’s not fall off far from the concept. In order to evade jealousy in their life, retire from Facebook, get a life for good! It might sound strange but Facebook is addictive, and it can keep calling you back. So keep your thoughts sound and sane. There is more to life than staring pointlessly at FB wall and strategizing your dirty tactics. Get a life folks!